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Mindful Condominium Management: The Art of an Adaptable Mindset

In the intricate realm of condominium management, the call for an open and flexible mindset resonates louder than ever. Drawing inspiration from mindfulness practices, which advocated for the development of a mind that is both malleable and wieldy, condominium managers are faced with the challenge of adapting to new information, navigating complex situations, and juggling shifting priorities.

At the heart of effective condominium management lies the ability to discern, to stand firm in one's convictions, and to honor a sense of self-respect. This becomes especially pertinent when external influences, conflicting opinions, and the echoes of doubt shape the professional landscape. The journey towards effective decision-making starts with a foundation of self-respect—an acknowledgment of what is seen, known, and valued.

Consider the scenario where a condominium manager faces opposition from residents over a large budget increase or assessment. Without self-respect and discernment, the manager might succumb to external pressures or, conversely, become rigid in their stance and how they respond to such concerns. The manager may take unjust criticism personally, react emotionally or avoid communication. Developing deeper self-respect allows for a balanced approach, where the manager can acknowledge valid concerns while standing firm on decisions grounded in the greater good.

In the realm of condominium management, discernment is like a compass guiding managers through the complex landscape of decisions and priorities. Much like the attributions we give to others, managers often find themselves discerning the intentions and qualities of various elements within the condominium community. Are certain issues intentional, or are they unintentional byproducts of a larger system?

Consider, for instance, the challenge of managing relationships within the community. Models and paradigms of relationships, whether between residents or with external stakeholders, can significantly impact the overall harmony of the condominium environment. Do we view residents as reliable and worthy of a positive relationship, or are we projecting onto them scripts from our past experiences?

Discernment also extends to the self-concept of condominium managers. How do they perceive themselves in their role? Are they burdened by self-doubt, or do they approach challenges with confidence and self-respect? It's essential for managers to discern whether their self-concept aligns with the reality of their capabilities and the evolving needs of the community.

In the face of change, the challenge lies not only in the external factors but in our internal views and beliefs. Condominium managers, much like anyone else, can become entrenched in their views, leading to rigidity and potential conflict. Imagine attributing negative intentions to a resident, adhering to outdated relationship paradigms, or underestimating one's own capabilities.

Condominium managers must recognize the discomfort that cognitive dissonance can bring. The discomfort of holding opposing ideas, such as the need for change conflicting with the familiarity of existing structures, can hinder the adaptability required in condominium management.

Amidst these challenges, the thread of self-respect runs deep. It's vital for condominium managers to honor what they see, know, and value. Self-respect becomes a shield against the gaslighting that might come from various sources—be it external pressures, conflicting views, or the doubts that sometimes linger within.

Take, for example, the daunting task of addressing a long-standing issues within the condominium. Perhaps, as a manager, you've been second-guessing yourself or feeling pushed around by conflicting views. This is where self-respect becomes the anchor. It's the unwavering acknowledgment of your own worth and the values you bring to the table.

The Natural Formation of Views and the Perils of Rigidity

In the dynamic environment of condominium management, it is only natural for views and beliefs to emerge. These mental constructs aid in simplifying complex situations, categorizing information, and streamlining decision-making processes. However, the danger arises when rigidity sets in, trapping individuals in a cycle of reactive decision-making and a steadfast adherence to preconceived notions.

Mindfulness practices on attachment to views find resonance in the field of condominium management. The rigidity of beliefs can lead to an unhealthy level of self-attachment, inhibiting the ability to adapt to new information and perspectives. Consider a manager who staunchly believes in maintaining strict rules to ensure order. In the face of changing demographics or evolving community needs, this rigidity might hinder the manager from suggesting policies that better suit the community's current dynamics.

Psychological Anchors and Resistance to Change

Psychology offers valuable insights into the factors that anchor individuals to their views. Attribution of intentions to others, the formation of relationship paradigms, and the shaping of self-concept during childhood all contribute to the psychological barriers that resist change. These anchors, deeply embedded in the subconscious, often hinder the adaptability required for effective condominium management.

Imagine a scenario where a condominium manager, due to childhood experiences, holds a view that strict enforcement of rules ensures safety. This view might be deeply intertwined with past traumas or anxieties. Recognizing and addressing these psychological anchors becomes imperative for managers seeking to lead with flexibility and adaptability.

Overcoming Cognitive Dissonance and Psychological Barriers

Cognitive dissonance, the discomfort of holding conflicting ideas, is an inherent part of the human experience. Embracing change involves transcending this discomfort, accommodating new information, and allowing one's worldview to shift. Yet, various psychological barriers, such as discomfort with change, the challenge of accommodating new information, and the influence of childhood experiences, can impede this process.

Consider a manager faced with conflicting opinions on the board’s willingness to enforce rules and bylaws. The discomfort of cognitive dissonance may arise as the manager grapples with the need to adapt to a more or less permissive approach. Overcoming this barrier requires a shift in mindset, a willingness to learn, and an acknowledgment of the impermanence of views.

To cultivate a malleable and wieldy mind, condominium managers should foster an attitude of openness. Try new approaches, explore different perspectives, and be curious about the diverse backgrounds within the community. Just as the Buddha encouraged openness to new information, condominium managers can benefit from a continuous process of learning and growth.

Enjoy the process of changing your mind. Recognize that the ability to adapt and shift perspectives is not a sign of weakness but a noble pursuit of knowledge and growth. Changing your mind becomes a prelude to becoming more knowledgeable, capable, and grounded in reality.

Strategies for Embracing Change in Condominium Management

1. Cultivate Openness: Condominium managers can benefit from a general attitude of openness. Trying new things, exploring diverse perspectives, and cultivating curiosity about residents from different backgrounds all contribute to a more open and adaptable mindset.

2. Value Learning and Growth: Changing one's mind should be seen as a noble pursuit. Recognizing the value in acknowledging when one was wrong is the prelude to becoming more knowledgeable and capable. This process, although uncommon, fosters personal and professional growth.

3. Cultivate Don't Know Mind: Embracing the wisdom of not knowing everything allows for greater curiosity, exploration, and non-attachment to fixed beliefs. This attitude, rooted in the Korean Zen tradition, encourages a humble acknowledgment of the vast unknown.

4. Mindfulness of Anger and Anxiety: Recognizing the role of anger or anxiety in holding onto views is crucial. Mindfulness techniques can help disentangle the emotional charge from beliefs, allowing for a clearer perspective and a more measured approach to decision-making.

5. Recognize the Emptiness of Views: Understanding that views are impermanent, compounded, and interdependent diminishes their oppressive nature. This recognition opens the door to exploring new perspectives with curiosity and non-attachment.

6. Separate Yourself from Your Views: Remembering that one is not defined by their views creates space for personal and professional growth. Disidentifying from beliefs allows for a more objective and adaptable approach to decision-making.

7. Run Experiments: Embracing change in small, manageable steps is a practical strategy. Running experiments, trying out new policies, and letting reality be the judge create a path for gradual, sustainable change.

Resources for Cultivating Openness, Value Growth, ‘Don’t Know Mind’, Mindfulness

While the most effective approach to exploring our inner landscape and identifying some of the underlying attributions and assumptions we make may be one-on-one sessions with a professional psychologist or councillor, there is a growing body of resources available for those interested in initiating their own exploration.


1. "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success" by Carol S. Dweck

This book explores the concept of a growth mindset, emphasizing the importance of embracing challenges and seeing failures as opportunities to learn and grow.

2. "Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha" by Tara Brach

Tara Brach combines Western psychology with Eastern wisdom, offering insights and practices for accepting ourselves and others with an open heart.

3. "The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom" by Don Miguel Ruiz

Don Miguel Ruiz shares ancient Toltec wisdom, including the agreement to be impeccable with your word and not making assumptions, which can contribute to a more open and authentic way of living.

Online Courses:

1. Coursera - "Learning How to Learn"

This popular course, created by Dr. Barbara Oakley, explores effective learning techniques, including insights into how the brain works and strategies for cultivating a flexible and open approach to learning.

2. “Being Well”

Author Forrest Hanson and his father, Dr. Rick Hanson discuss common emotional hangups and how to navigate them skillfully.

3. Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Courses

MBSR courses, available both online and in-person, teach mindfulness meditation techniques that can help individuals become more present, open, and aware.


1. "On Being with Krista Tippett" This podcast explores the big questions of meaning, faith, and ethics. The diverse range of guests and topics can inspire openness to different perspectives.

2. "The Tim Ferriss Show" Tim Ferriss interviews a variety of successful individuals, exploring their habits, routines, and perspectives. Listening to these interviews can broaden your understanding and encourage openness.

3. “The Mindful Coping Podcast” Jeff Krisman has over 20 years of experience in practicing a type of Mindfulness practice called Mindful Coping, which provides practitioners with an ongoing and increasing ability to cope more effectively with the chaos, uncertainty, and constant change that we experience in our lives.

Meditation Apps:

1. Headspace

Headspace offers guided meditations that focus on mindfulness and openness. The app provides exercises to help users cultivate a more open and accepting mindset.

2. Calm

Calm includes meditation sessions that encourage mindfulness and openness. The app also offers sleep stories and relaxation exercises to support overall well-being.

In the dynamic world of condominium management, the ability to change one's mind is not just a skill; it's an art. It requires a delicate balance between holding firm to essential values and being open to the ever-evolving landscape of information and perspectives. By embracing this art, condominium managers can foster effective decision-making, improve relationships with residents, and contribute to the flourishing of the community. Let us cultivate minds that are both malleable and wielding, ready to adapt for the greater good of the communities we serve.


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